You may be considering a rebound relationship, so you need to know why everyone can get hurt in a rebound relationship.
Let’s look at the definition of rebound relationships: This is a relationship that a person gets involved in shortly after the breakup of their previous relationship. There are up to four people affected in this type of relationship: the new partner and the partners with whom they had a recent relationship.
There can be a number of reasons for embarking on this new relationship, one being revenge for hurting your previous partner or an attempt to make them jealous. This isn’t fair to the new partner or their old partner and is likely to backfire, so usually no one wins in this situation and each person gets more hurt.
Another reason is that the suddenly single person doesn’t want to be alone, so in order not to have to be alone, they quickly get into another relationship. People who suddenly find themselves single seem to attract each other as partners, so two people just out of one relationship can quickly jump into another.
There are a number of drawbacks or issues to be aware of with bounce relationships:
– People often have unresolved issues from their previous relationships and by getting into another relationship quickly, they may not have been able to resolve these issues and thus carry them into the new relationship.
– People can jump into these relationships by mistaking comfort and sharing a common pain for love, so the relationship itself cannot be sustained and is relatively short-lived.
– People may use these relationships as a way to cover up their hurt emotions and avoid dealing with them, but they still need to work out their feelings about the relationship and their lost love. When they begin to deal with those emotions, they may find that they are ‘over’ the person they are with now.
– People can quickly enter another relationship to feel good about themselves again, since being abandoned or having a breakup can make a person feel unloved. This often results in the relationship ending quickly as the new person is unable to cope with the other’s need.
Invariably, people involved in rebound relationships are unaware of the various emotions that drive their needs and really need to spend some time alone to work out those issues and regain balance before they are ready for another relationship.
It is important for someone who has just gotten out of a breakup to grieve losing their previous partner, their relationship, and their dreams of a future together. This person needs to start feeling good about themselves again and develop a plan for their future before looking for a potential new partner. This is so that they have something to contribute to the relationship and can build a healthy relationship with their new boyfriend or girlfriend.
Any time two people contemplate a new relationship that fits into the category of a rebound relationship, it is more likely to be successful if these points are kept in mind and the issues worked out and resolved. This can be a time of rapid growth and getting to know each other in the new relationship, but it requires both parties to be fully aware of what is happening to them.
Jumping into a rebound relationship without being fully aware of these factors can result in everyone getting hurt, when they don’t really need to.