1. Communicate
Communication with your lover is the most important factor not only for a satisfying sexual relationship but for a relationship in general. If you do not communicate with your partner you cannot be satisfied. Many people falsely believe that their lover can read their mind or that they should instinctively know how to please them. This is a very destructive belief not only for sex, but also for the relationship as a whole. Speak openly, directly and honestly. Be specific. Tell your partner where, when and how to touch you. Describe how much pressure, how much speed, and how long it takes. Tell them what, when and how to say what they need to hear, etc. Let them know when you feel good and when you don’t. Good communication involves the expression of feelings. Discuss your feelings, needs, desires, fears, shame, expectations in and out of the bedroom regarding all aspects of the relationship. Good communication will increase intimacy, and more intimacy will lead to more sex.
2. Be a selfless lover
Be a selfless lover (meaning your goal is your pure desire to give your partner the pleasure they want). Don’t take each other for granted, which is easy to do if you’ve been together for a while and it will kill your passion. Don’t please your lover
based on what feels good to you, give them what you know they enjoy. Always attend to the needs of your partner as much as your own and you will be considered a good lover. Spend a lovemaking session devoted entirely to your lover. make them feel special
and appreciated. Express your love and appreciation freely and often both outside and inside the bedroom. Don’t assume your lover knows how you feel. It needs to be verbalized. Say I love you or you are so beautiful, or you feel so good. Everyone wants to feel loved, valued, and appreciated.
Remember that what happens outside the bedroom has a big impact on what happens in bed.
3. Look for variety
As the saying goes Variety is the spice of life, and boredom is one of the main causes of infidelity. If you keep a lot of variety in your positions and activities, you will never get bored. There are numerous books and videos that can give you new
suggestions or be creative and use your imagination. Try having sex in different places around the house or in a bathroom at a gas station, restaurant, or some other place that you find very exciting where you won’t get caught. Take a shower with your lover and
use your hands as a rag. Lather them up and explore every inch, nook and cranny of their body. Savor them as if they were a good wine. This will spark erotic, sensual, spiritual, and physical energy in both of you and will also serve as a tool for
help you learn invaluable information about the bodies of others. Get naked outdoors and make wildly passionate love. I don’t think there is anything more liberating, exciting and spiritual than being
naked outside and make love with the feeling of the elements on your body. It puts you in touch with the primary basics and provokes uninhibited passions. Do things that are unique to you as a couple and can maintain variety and flavor while still being a monogamous couple. Change your routine.
4. Be spontaneous and adventurous
Surprise your lover with something unusual and kinky. Yes Kinky! Be outrageous and adventurous. Show up to her work for lunch naked under your coat and show them about her. Send them an invite to a hotel for a hot night of sex. He plays to interpret one of your fantasies. Tell them you must have them somewhere unusual and take them passionately. Women, try not to wear your bra and panties and go about your daily activities. Not wearing a bra and panties is very stimulating and will make you feel very sexy and erotic.
Tell your partner you’re not wearing any and you’ll drive them absolutely crazy just thinking about it.
5. Be present in the here and now
Fully experience every touch, sensation, smell, movement, sound, and taste as you make love. Don’t let your mind get into thoughts about work, kids, or cooking dinner, etc. Stay completely focused on your partner and your experience. Allow yourself to fully immerse yourself in the pleasurable sensations you are giving and receiving.
6. Know your own body and desires
If you don’t know what turns you on and what pleases you, neither does your lover. She explores your own body and finds out what you like and what you don’t like. She discovers what surrounds you and makes you roar. Make love to yourself. You can really drive your lover crazy by letting him see you pleasure yourself.
7. Make sex a priority
Relationships are the most important aspect of our lives and sex is a crucial component of your intimate relationship. Make time to make love. Do not push it. It must be one of the highest priorities in your life. When sex is put aside, the desire and passion will diminish. The more you engage in sex, the more your desire will grow.
8. Pursue your lover with unbridled passion
It is a great aphrodisiac for both men and women to see and feel desire and passion in their lover’s eyes and actions. Let your lover know how deeply you love them. Rip off their clothes and take them passionately. Let them hear you feast on them.
When making love, tell him how much you enjoy his body or how good it feels with you. Let yourself go with total surrender.
9. Know your partner’s hot spots
Taking the time to learn what makes your lover’s engine tick is one of the most important ingredients for great sex. You can never know your lover too well. Pay attention to when and what your lover responds to and learn what she needs. Keep it in her mind and be sure to use it often. When her lover is pleased and satisfied, then she wants to reciprocate and please him even more and thus sexual satisfaction increases for both parties. When you know how to please your lover, her desire for you increases and she will want sex more often. Knowing your partner and making an effort to please her is an act of love; It shows them that they are important to you and that you care about their needs. You must know that your lovers love buttons like the palm of your hand.
10. Be an oral connoisseur
Being a skilled oral lover is a very important component of a couple’s sexual relationship for both the man and the woman. Few things are more pleasurable for a man or a woman than being tasted, devoured and orally satisfied by their lover.
It is one of the most intimate gifts we can give each other. Pleasuring your lover orally has become an integral part of lovemaking. One of the great things about oral sex is that it can be part of foreplay or the main course, and there are so many ways to explore it. Giving your lover oral pleasure is a
last act of generosity, giving, caring and loving.