A woman’s sexual role focuses on what happens before intercourse. She needs to attract a man and turn him on enough that he wants to penetrate her. Men often compliment women on their appearance. Women rarely return these compliments. It is accepted that admiration is unidirectional. A woman does not need the reassurance of sex because she is reassured by a man’s admiration for her body. During sexual intercourse, a woman must provide a man with explicitly erotic feedback for his behavior or what he says.
A woman does not need to fake an orgasm or arousal. She can find other ways to be a receptive lover. Intercourse is like an erotic dance in which a woman follows the example of a man. A woman can smile encouragingly. She can stroke her lover’s groin through her jeans, massaging her penis. Lovers can enjoy deep kisses and sensual caresses. A woman can use her tongue to simulate thrusts into her lover’s mouth in sync with her thrusting rhythm.
A good female lover relaxes with nudity and sexually explicit activities. A man enjoys a woman who uses explicit language. A woman should exaggerate when she describes the things that she would like him to do to her. For a bit of variety, couples should plan a few sessions in front of the TV. Watching porn movies during sex can add a bit of flavor for both lovers.
Women are not aroused by a lover, so they must provide a simulated erotic response. By making small moans or sighs, a woman can help her lover orgasm and provide a form of erotic feedback that indicates when stimulation is pleasurable. A woman gives a man pleasure by kissing him, caressing him and masturbating him. A man can last 2 seconds. He can ejaculate in her hand. Really do not care. He is the man who is frustrated because he has missed the opportunity to have sex. There is always another time.
Men tend to initiate sex, so he can become aroused if a woman occasionally offers to please a man or suggests what pleasure he would enjoy. A woman can flirt by playing on male fantasies. Arousing a man is easy! A woman may make sexual references or use erotic language to turn him on. This is not deception but simple frivolity. Exaggeration is part of the fun!
A woman can gently lick and suck on a man’s nipples. She can hold her erection and move her hand up and down slowly but steadily. She can move her hips over her erection and lower her vagina over her penis. She can move to the rhythm of her thrusting, grabbing his buttocks or stroking her balls. She can passionately kiss her lover or run her fingers down her back.
Any man can enjoy the sensations of being penetrated simply to experience a novel sexual phenomenon. Such a desire is probably nothing more than sexual curiosity and does not necessarily indicate any homosexual tendencies. Men have a prostate next to the rectum that provides exquisite pleasure when stimulated and it is natural for a man to want to experience this.
For men sexual opportunities are precious. So a man approaches sex with a sense of urgency and anxiety. Men want to enjoy the exciting sensations of thrusting. Once they have sex, men can quickly orgasm, so a generous male lover offers to please a woman before he orgasms from her. Older men can delay ejaculation with a lover for 20 minutes or more. They do this to extend the time they can enjoy sexual pleasure.
If a woman spreads her legs, lying on her stomach, she can tell her partner to plant his erect penis firmly inside her vagina. She can ask him to stay still and try to make him cum on her own. She can reach down and feel the base of her penis. She can knead her buttocks and pull him from behind deeper into her. She can feel the stiffness of her erection. If a man moves her weight onto her arms, the woman can rotate her hips or tense her pelvic muscles rhythmically to give him more sensation.
A woman may begin a sex session by using one hand or her mouth to stimulate her lover’s penis until she is tired or he is ready to move on to penetrative sex. Then she can guide her erect penis into her vagina and move her hips to stimulate her penis. Lying on her back, a woman can lift her legs and wrap them around her lover’s back. A woman can squeeze her man’s buttocks by perhaps pulling him toward her. She can tense her pelvic floor muscles to squeeze his penis inside her. She can run her hands down her lover’s back. If pressure on the cervix makes deep penetration uncomfortable, the woman can place her hand between her body and her lover’s groin to prevent her penis from entering the vagina too deeply.
Most men feel that they are always the initiator and that creates an imbalance in the scale of passion in the relationship. (The Parrots 2009)