Personally, I found the similarity and attraction a touch counter-intuitive. In fact, the similarity in the background provides the acceptable circumstances for emotional comparison. Therefore, we often envy or like those who were born in the city where we were born, or tend to generally fall in love with someone who is similar to us or reminds us of someone from our past. Like memory, which improves once we are in the same circumstances.
The similarity, however, could be a somewhat obscure property. Love depends on many alternative factors, and it would certainly be oversimplified to clarify it by referring only to similarity. Still, some lifetime of similarity is sometimes helpful in maintaining love relationships.
Referring to the notion of temperature, we tend to say that our partner should be in the center of our comfort zone. This is consumed by the similarity problem, which ensures that we will feel comfortable with our partner. However, to ensure excitement in the relationship, the couple must be ready to expand our comfort zone. That is, opposites attract, since they will increase our temperature, however, important variations will take us out of our emotional balance towards discomfort.
While the similarity clearly plays an important role in the choice of a partner. It is the similarity of the temperament-related domains that must be taken into account once a mate is chosen. In fact, there is a direct correlation between similarity and marital status quality across personality-related domains, but not in terms of perspective-connected domains. It seems that people are attracted to and marry partners with similar attitudes and values, but they usually disagree on temperament traits.
However, in an extremely committed relationship, it is mainly the similarity of temperament that influences the happiness in marriage, which is less complicated to notice, however, the similarity of temperament becomes an additional necessity because the relationship will increase. in compromise.
We tend to fall in love and stay with those who share deep similarities with us, which can be expressed at various stages of the relationship. The presence of such essential similarities does not necessarily exclude, and may even encourage, the differences associated with surface manifestations in essential similarity.
Deep love involves deep common structures and completely different superficial manifestations. Variations attract, but only within a shared framework that leaves ample room for complementary variations. Change is problematic and unlikely. Therefore, it is easier to choose people who have the same desires and goals as yours from the beginning.