While marriage can be exciting and happy, it can be full of disappointments and broken dreams.
Would you agree?
Here are 5 reasons why we tend to think marriage is killing our dreams. When you finish reading this article, you will discover that it is not so much about marriage. But it is the way you perceive how marriage affects your dreams.
1) You are missing God’s perspective on your dreams. God has a plan for you, but it is important that you know his plan for your life. I encourage you to take a quiet moment to find out why he created you and what his plan is.
2) You don’t think your spouse is supportive of your dreams because they aren’t as driven by them as you are.
When we share our dreams with our husbands, we want them to get excited, put on a cheerleading outfit and yell, “Come on, wife!” while doing three back flips.
But what if your husband isn’t very enthusiastic about your dream?
What if he just says it’s okay and watches you chase your dream? It would be good?
3) You are not balancing your time properly.
What are you doing with your time on a daily basis? Watch TV, look at photos and videos on Facebook, gossip on the phone with your friends? Most of these things are dream killers because they often eat up your time. Decide on a few things you can cut out of your day and use that time to work on your dream.
4) Fear and insecurity – These are common dream killers because they paralyze you from the productive things you should be doing to achieve your dream.
There are many fears/insecurities.
Some include the fear of:
• Making mistakes
• Past failures
• What others will think of you
• Exchange
• Fear of not being good enough
Ask yourself, “What fears are keeping me from achieving my dreams?” Refuse to let your fears and insecurities stop you from achieving your dreams. Step out in faith and do what you can to make them come true.
5) You don’t have a strategy to pursue your dream. You may have a dream, but you don’t know what first step to take.
For me, it was writing a book. I have been writing for years, but there have been some areas for improvement. I also struggled with fears and insecurities and needed a strong support system to help me write my book and share my message with others appropriately.
I recently attended a book writing conference and connected with many people who dream of writing and sharing their message with others. They really understand my plight and are willing to help me achieve my dream.
This conference gave me the support I needed and the tools to create a system and take the next steps to share my message writing about marriage to others.
If you think marriage is killing your dreams, think again. I encourage you to:
1. Get God’s perspective on your dreams
2. Appreciate the support your spouse gives you even if they don’t do it as you think they should
3. Eliminate dream killers and replace them chasing your dream.
4. Get over your fears and insecurities.
5. Connect with people or organizations that can help you create and implement. a strategy to take the next steps towards your dream.