Living in a house where your mother is narcissistic is never easy to recognize. They hide under someone else’s facade. They pretend to be someone better, a successful parent to the outside world. But the drama and the actual abuse happen behind closed doors.
The abused adolescent suffers from emotional pain, shame, disrespect where he feels unworthy and guilty for what he is. They have no right to shine and grow with dignity as independent human beings.
It is especially visible when a girl is entering the puberty stage. That is why the narcissistic mother treats her daughter more cruelly than her son. So, she becomes very jealous, possessive, and abusive. It treats it as an extension of itself.
Why? You realize you are getting old! He realizes that he missed great opportunities in life, great relationships, and faces his own past abuse. His daughter reminds him of the painful truth about his own life. She is a threat to her and she blames her for sacrificing her life for the housewife.
This is why jealousy is surfacing. He must take every opportunity to unleash all his accumulated rage on her. Find a temporary release from your low self-esteem and feelings of failure.
Through his abuse, he damages his daughter’s self-esteem and self-esteem. That is why you cannot develop your full potential and happiness. The hidden message for her is that “you have no right to be happy, free, beautiful and successful.”
She experiences his harsh criticism, manipulation, shame, and humiliation of her female body parts. Create more havoc and more doubts in your young mind. She is overwhelmed by limiting and toxic beliefs and negative emotions.
After so much abuse, her daughter gives up and accepts who she thinks she has become. The narcissistic mother feels liberated and much better about herself. Her growing child is not a threat to her right now until the next emotional threat appears. Then the cycle of abuse will happen again.
No one can accept that kind of treatment. A young daughter is furious and a rebellion may occur. The narcissistic mother hates disagreements and opposition, so she will fight to punish her. In his mind, she belongs to him.
What can we do about it? This is a very difficult question when the adolescent is still living with a narcissistic mother.
Many years later, she is ready to face the truth and deal with a demonic past with a still-abusive mother. It is never easy to say ‘NO’ to stop adult abuse. So the decision not to have contact is life changing.
It is possible to break free from narcissistic abuse. You must acknowledge the past and address negative and toxic beliefs and memories. When you do, it is possible to unplug and remove traumatic memories and feelings from your mind. Then the essential life force energy will return to your body and make you free and resilient at will.
Unfortunately, the narcissistic mother never changes. As you get older, the mental disorder grows stronger and more toxic to the people you live with.
Fixing this person is never an option as they will never be successful. Remember: you will never fix a narcissistic mother, but you can save your life.